Learning from my son
I was having a difficult time taking my 3-year-old Jacob to shower. I got very upset, he started crying which made me more upset. I yelled at him and that made him upset too. I was really annoyed.
So after all the drama, I finally gave up trying and sat down in silence next to him while tinkering on my phone, listening to his sobs as he looks straight to the TV. We both sat without saying anything for about 10-15 minutes. Then he broke the silence and said softly, “Sorry, Mommy.”
I hugged him and said sorry too for yelling at him, then I asked if we can go to the shower now. He said yes sweetly, stood up, and started walking to the bathroom! After the shower he was so happy, hugging me and being his normal, funny self, while I’m still feeling guilty for being so upset about him refusing to shower just a few minutes back.
I thought, I wish it is this easy for all of us to say sorry, to forgive, and move on as it was for this little boy, and that he remains this way. Although of course I’m sure he would do this again—our arguments won’t end there, whether it’s about going to the shower or not—but will I be more understanding next time? Will he even try to make it less difficult for both of us? Maybe not.
But it doesn’t make me love him any less, and I know he feels the same.
So after all the drama, I finally gave up trying and sat down in silence next to him while tinkering on my phone, listening to his sobs as he looks straight to the TV. We both sat without saying anything for about 10-15 minutes. Then he broke the silence and said softly, “Sorry, Mommy.”
I hugged him and said sorry too for yelling at him, then I asked if we can go to the shower now. He said yes sweetly, stood up, and started walking to the bathroom! After the shower he was so happy, hugging me and being his normal, funny self, while I’m still feeling guilty for being so upset about him refusing to shower just a few minutes back.
I thought, I wish it is this easy for all of us to say sorry, to forgive, and move on as it was for this little boy, and that he remains this way. Although of course I’m sure he would do this again—our arguments won’t end there, whether it’s about going to the shower or not—but will I be more understanding next time? Will he even try to make it less difficult for both of us? Maybe not.
But it doesn’t make me love him any less, and I know he feels the same.
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